I am Not Lost! I am Simply Taking My Time

One time a "friend" of fine I am putting quotes because I don't know if she is a friend anymore. Because what kind of friend that does not tell you anything especially about an important career change?! Anyway that is a story for another day. Today let us talk about our favourite topic -Introversion.

As I was saying, this friend of mine has been married for a decade. She has kids of course and with her husband the house is always full as expected. So one day she was moving houses and needed some help. First she took her kids to her sister's place the night before she moved so it will be easier for her the following day.

When I met her at work on Monday the experience she had seemed to have traumatised her! Well, at least that is what she made it sound like. She said while the kids were away she didn't know what to do with herself; she did not feel like cooking, even the food she ordered she did not enjoy, reason she felt lonely. That is not even the point, so she goes a head and asks now is that what you call freedom? Well, because I live alone obviously and I am used to the "freedom" that come with it and when we are always chatting I am like I do whatever I want , when I want ; no pressure. I have no idea why she compared her experience with my introversion. Several studies have shown it takes very few months for someone to form a habit. So obviously as she has formed a habit of having people around is the same way I have formed a habit of being just alone and that is okay.

The problem with people who think they are living up to society expectations believe they are happy than others and always comparing their form of happiness with others.

I am not undermining the concept of family obviously I came from one but stop pressuring people to catch up with you! It is not like am 40! I still got some time. Again as an introvert even in my personal life I will still take time.

The end is still the same!

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